does it sound familiar?

I ran through my notes and found this cute anecdote:

” I went to my wife & asked, “Honey, what can I do to help us get ready on time?” Now, I didn’t really mean that. I really meant, What can I do to help you get over your problem of being so late? But I said it properly: “What can I do to help us get ready on time?”

“The first thing,” she said, “is that you could hang up your clothes. You try on various combinations of clothes & let them lay all over the bedroom.” I’d always wondered how my clothes made their way back on the hangers!

“Second,” she continued, “you could help get the children ready for bed.”

“You do that, too huh? Okay. I’ll hang up my clothes & help with the children.”

“Finally,” she said, “maybe you could get ready early & troubleshoot around the house when someone calls or comes to the door. Instead of yelling from the bathroom, ‘Honey, would you get that?’ maybe you could get it.”

The entire dialogue sent me into a state of shock! It was as if I had walked into the bedroom with a 20-gauge shotgun aimed directly at my wife’s weaknesses & right when I pulled the trigger, my gun blew up on me! What I thought was her problem was really my problem!

I realized there was a lesson to be learned from my wife’s weakness, & the lesson in that particular case was not patience–although I needed a little bit of that–but becoming sensitive to the needs of my mate”

 

Soulmates

I am a romantic soul, and as such, I love the idea of a soulmate, someone who is the special one for me.

But, no matter how much I may like it, it just doesn’t work that way.

According to Greek mythology humans were once two-faced, four-armed, and four-legged beings who got split by Zeus, for fear they would become too powerful.

Since then we are looking for our “other half” and the myth lives on that we won’t be happy unless we find it.

Thankfully, principles of love, acceptance, patience, and forgiveness work, and they work all the time, every time–no matter to whom you are married!

And when our relationships fall apart, we can learn from them and become better partners, instead of hanging to the idea that we need to keep looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right.

It pays to grow as great lovers and partners, rather than expecting someone to be perfectly fit for us. And yes, you can be that ideal soulmate after all!

 

 

 

arte dell’amare

arte dell’amare.

art of loving

THE IDEAL PARTNER

a transformational seminar on relationships

coming soon in English, as webinar!

 

 

relationship coaching

relationship coaching.

 

What Your Lady Wants: 3 ways to spoil her on women’s day!

Though your lady may be going out to enjoy her girlfriends company to merrily celebrate this day, you may want to make sure you find a special way to tell her you love her.

Since mistery is being unveiled about what women want, it’s time to make the most of this treasured piece of knowledge.
Yes, your lady wants you! She wants your attention and to know that you choose her all over again each passing day!

So, here are three easy ways to make your best wishes today stand out. Just make sure you put your Magician’s hat on and allow the creative you to come out and play:

1. favorite color code:Do you know what her favorite color is? You can use it to enhance your gift, note, flowers, chocolates, candles,  dish, or bubble bath ….
2. love words: Though we all know that women are so responsive to your love expressed in words, this is a treasure that too often remains hidden. Write them down in a “treasure hunt” format, in a song, in a silly poem, just make sure you use them!
3. memory games: Whether you want to take a walk by the beach and share favorite memories of times together by the sea side, or take some time to look at your pictures and see what you can remember of what you did then, or share something that surprised you of her when you first met her, these are little things that can mean a lot to her.

 

Maybe, when you play the Magician, you can find new fun ways to tell her you love her… keep amazing her, and she will amaze you!

 

You and I …

Quotes for love celebration

You may hold my hand for a while, but you hold my heart forever.

I’m so in love, every time I look at you my soul gets dizzy. ~Jaesse Tyler

I climbed up the door and opened the stairs,
Said my pajamas and put on my prayers,
Then I turned off the bed and crawled into the light
All because you kissed me goodnight!
~Author Unknown

Here’s my love, take it. Here’s my soul, use it. Here’s my heart, don’t break it. Here’s my hand, hold it and together we will make it forever.

I don’t care what tomorrow brings, I’m glad I’m spending my today in your arms. You make everything matter, and I hope you don’t wonder why I stare at you… when I look in your eyes, I see forever.. and that place is beautiful, and that’s the reason for the stare… I love you… I am in love with you!

 

LadY Valentine

LadY Valentine.

 

Irresistible Love

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New Year, New Love!

On a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate your love life in 2010? Why?

If it’s not a 10, what would it take to make it?

It’s one of my heart’s desires to support you in building the love life you dream of.  I want to tell you that it’s possible. Whether you are single and looking for Mr. Right-for-you, or you find yourself in a relationship that is not all that it could be, or you just wish you could add new spark and passion into your love life, well, you can do it!

In February, I will start a new love relationships coaching course “From bearable to irresistible”, that will take you into a fascinating journey of discovery, fulfillment, and new lasting love!

It will be available online as well, and suited to your personal needs.

If you’re interested, please write me at:

info@withinyoucoach.com

 

Admiring Your Man

By Helen B. Andelin

Discovering Things to Admire. First of all, think about him. Spend less time thinking about your affairs & more about him. Next, observe him. Keep your eyes open & watch what he does & you will find things to admire. You will have a great opportunity to admire him when he talks, so encourage him to talk about himself.
How to Listen to a Man. Follow this rule & you will learn to be a good listener: Don’t only listen to what he is saying, but to the man who is saying it. Notice how absorbed he is in the subject, how he has mastered the intricate details, what skill & knowledge he has gained etc. If you can’t comprehend all of what he is saying, don’t let this lull you to sleep. Look for traits of his character which you can admire.
Rewards. When the wife sincerely admires her husband’s masculinity, it can bring rewards to both of them. When she gives him admiration, he returns love, as is evident in the following true experience:
“Trying to tell my husband that I accepted him & admired him for standing up & sticking up for his convictions was a very hard thing for me to come out with. First of all, I am not the kind of person to say something like this, & secondly, I thought I would start to giggle. Finally I was going to do it no matter what kind of mess it turned into. So I walked into the room & started, & once I began I realised that what I was saying was really how I felt. This was one of the main reasons I fell in love with my husband–he stood up for what he believed in & didn’t let me get away with walking all over him.
” Well, the look in his eyes was just unbelievable. Never can I remember such a look. About a week later he took me out to dinner & made two comments. One hurt, & the other felt great. He said that for the first time he felt I really cared; he had never thought I cared what happened to him. Secondly, that he never loved me any more than he did then. What more can a woman ask for?”